It breaks my heart to watch my peers go through things and not be taken seriously.
Or even worse- go through things and become a statistic.
And the worst of all- some of them didn't survive things and became a statistic that nobody wants to be.
I personally have been through things that most thirty-year-olds wouldn't get through successfully.
But this isn't really about me, all that much.
You see, I have some friends who are absolutely the best people in the world. However, despite their greatness and awesomeness, they are reduced to next to nothing by the words of people who either brought them into the world/raised them or people that they've trusted when those people weren't there.
Hear me please, my dear friends, and anyone else who doesn't feel like you are anything but a failure... You are so much more than what any of these pathetic individuals have to say about you.
But I know that a couple of you don't even think that. You think I'm lying, because it would be impossible to believe such things about yourselves... That breaks my heart, guys.
You are not that number on your report card.
Nor are you your mother, or your father.
You aren't going to be a bad mom/dad.
You aren't a "spitting image" of whomever someone has said you are to hurt you.
You are more than what that boy says about you.
You are more than what that girl says about you.
It is okay to be brave.
It is okay to be wrong sometimes!
You don't have to be perfect.
You are not a failure.
You are intelligent
smart
kind
beautiful
appealing
worth it
going to amount to something
lovable
unstoppable
brave
and you're going to be someone...
no. matter. what.
We as humans often forget the most precious aspect of being human, and that is that we have this unbound capability to care for people. We even care for the people who hurt us.
Over,
and over,
and over again.
We let toxic people stay in our lives because we feel like we owe it to them. We grow up too fast because society deems having the heart and spirit of a child to be "childish." People start telling us that we're failures, and we believe them. We're raised and conditioned to believe that it is our job as the "future of the world/America/{insert your country here}" to conform and have no say.
Girls are told that they're asking for it when they dress for a hot day.
That boy that can draw and write and do all of the things you can't is told that he is a failure because he can't do math.
Young couples are shamed about pursuing a future because their brains aren't ready for that decision, but
young people in general are forced to make financially petrifying decisions about schooling for a career that we might not even want in 10 years.
Being sexually open makes you a pervert, a fag, a slut, a whore, or sinful
BUT
Hiding your sexuality makes you prude, immature, and ignorant.
Some of my friends have played massive roles in raising their siblings, assisting sick grandparents, working jobs to feed their families, or have withstood abuse for the sake of protecting someone else. They have suffered through things that they never should have, all for the sake of pleasing or helping someone.
HOW CAN WE JUST STAND BY AND WATCH THIS HAPPEN?
Listen, guys, I know that most of my readers are above the age of 14, and I'm speaking to even some of you...
But mostly to my peers and older.
I'm talking to the 17 year olds who let their boyfriends control their cellphones.
I'm talking to the 30 year olds who don't help the elderly man carry his groceries, or say something to someone about that mom that just cussed out her kid.
I'm talking about those 50 year olds who blame my generation for all of the corruption in the world, when we haven't even had a legal say so until this year.
I'm talking to all of the elderly people who think that they are too old or too good to help someone...
If you know that your voice is going to make someone angry, but you also know that it could make a difference, then why on earth would you make a decision to let someone remain in pain to save your own behind?!
When did humanity become so shrouded in fear?
Why is self-sacrifice such a bad thing?
I have friends that would be in higher places if someone would just tell them something kind. You don't have to make a dangerous outspoken comment to make a difference. Just know that when a situation arises, that you need to defend them and encourage them. You need to ignore the consequences as they apply to you, and recklessly defend the hurting person in front of you.
And to my friends struggling?
Live every day like your mission in life is getting to Neverland.
Never stop wishing on stars or dreaming far-fetched dreams. Don't lose hope. Wipe off your tears... or don't! Sob, cry it out, have good hugs, kiss with passion, love with caution, believe in your future with everything. Play games, board games, video games... Talk to your imaginary friends. Bake a cake. Bake cookies. Run, dance, laugh, play.
Because those people who say that Neverland doesn't exist are the ones who prolong it's existence every day. Those people telling you to grow up? Man, I feel sorry for them, because they're never going to experience the awesomeness that is being 100% sure of themselves... No matter what age they are inside.
Neverland is that place in life that you want to get to when you'll never have to go through it again. Yeah, times might still be tough when you get to Neverland. Peter Pan even had to fight some pirates every once in a while. But that didn't make it any less beautiful, or make him want to leave it behind. He defended that place with everything.
And that's what we all need to do as well.
Defend Neverland for yourself, and for everyone else.
I love you guys...
-Tori <3